How to Raise Your Stakes |
What YOU Can Do
You have written your wish list in a potential partner and written a list of your own assets earlier.
Now lets get down to a bit more detail. List about yourself on the lines below at least ten good things to say about yourself which you feel you have to offer.
a)
Now list the ten things you feel that your chosen would be looking for, in order of importance to them. It's very important to try to objective. If, for instance, you are a short lady wanting a very tall man, you must acknowledge that he is probably looking for a tallish woman. Don't worry, you very well may have others positives which could offset this!
b)
Finally, choose from your list of you own qualities (list a), those which also appear in the list of your 'chosen' (list b) - in order of merit in their eyes - as far as you can!
c)
Do you possess some of these qualities at the top of your 'imaginary chosen's' list?
If yes, so far so good!
If no, you may be in that Cloud Cuckoo Land I was talking about, and you may have to go back to reconsidering what you're looking for and why.
The sort of dating in a serious search for a partner and meaningful relationship which is dealt with in these reports may well not be for you!
NOW, A DIFFICULT ONE…
Forgetting about yourself, try to list in no particular order the five most probably off-putting and discouraging characteristics in the eyes of your 'chosen' (you may have none of them, one, or more):
d)
By considering all these factors, you will smooth the path for yourself, you will make those lucky people who you'll be meeting on dates truly fortunate to have met someone like you, irrespective of the outcome.
It will be fairly obvious if your own list (a) contains few of the positive characteristics heading 'your chosen's' list (b) and any of the negatives at all (d), that you either have some serious work to do, or you are aiming at the wrong sort of person.
This is no exact science, but an exercise to help you to get your thoughts together and to prepare you for the rest of the report.
You may well want to revise all four lists when you have read what people actually say!
So, are you being realistic? Whilst aiming 'high' or being very 'specific' in what you want, do you feel you're still being reasonable?
The Dating Game could otherwise be very demoralising for you.
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